• Is your anger ruining your relationships?
  • Are you suffering from anxiety, depression or a lack of self control?
  • Are you feeling trapped in negative cycles of communication?
  • Do you feel isolated or disconnected from others?
  • Are people avoiding you or telling you it’s time to change?

Individual and Couples Counseling

Psychotherapy Groups For Men

Anger Management, Better Relationships and Self Developement

San Francisco- Valencia @ 23rd St. Near 24th & Mission BART  

Albany, 925 Adams, Near the intersection of Solano and San Pablo, just off Hwy 80- easy parking

Call 510 684 0658

Don't Let Negative Emotions Ruin Your Relationships:  When you are held captive by anxiety, stress, depression, repetetive negative thoughts, anger, emotional distancing or sexual dissatisfaction, your joy in living is greatly reduced. When relationship partners are unable to regulate emotions between them, and instead trigger cycles of repetetive fighting, blame and judgement, great frustration and suffering is the result.

Mindfulness Tools That Lower Stress & Anger & Increase Positive Emotions:   I offer a specific set of dynamic tools and mindfulness practices that decrease negative emotions. When you activate these tools in your daily life, your inner expereince and relationships will improve. You will feel more alive, more relaxed and more able to track and manage emotional challenges as they arise. Your relationships will improve as you learn to recognize and interrupt the triggers that send you into negative cycles. When you feel better, your energy will rise and you will want to engage the world more fully.

Anger Management & Emotional Resiliance:   Everyone experiences difficulty with anger at some point. Relationship stress, parenting issues, financial or work pressures, loss, sudden changes or transitions and trauma, all put enormous strain on your capacity to cope. The people who contact me for anger management are typically good, well intentioned people who have had an incident or incidents that reveal that they have difficulty containing anger. My approach to anger management is not a specific programed course, but it is both systematic and organic. Anger management can be done in individual therapy, within couples therapy or in one of my ongoing groups. Dealing with anger can also become part of a larger journey of personal growth where you develop emotional resiliance, flexibility, responsiveness, empathy, joy, empowerment, satisfaction and aliveness. Here is some of what you will learn:

  • Learn to lower your internal stress levels and get centered in yourself
  • Learn to undo your anxiety- a primary hidden trigger of anger
  • Learn to explore your feelings rather than act them out
  • Learn to build an inner "container" to "hold" anger and other emotions
  • Identify relationship cycles, old locked roles and internal stories that trigger your anger
  • Learn the difference between complaining, outrage, attack/blame and assertiveness
  • Learn the link between your depression and anger
  • identify old family and cultural patterns that influence your expression of anger
  • identify the link between trauma- physical, verbal or sexual, and anger
  • learn how to build positive emotions and how to repair miss-attunments in your relationships.
  • Understand a map of system dynamics that operate in couples, families, groups and in the workplace that generate anger and other negative emotions. Learn to recognise patterns of scategoating, competition, defiance/compliance and one-up/one down that undermine our relationships at hme and the workplace.
  • learn essential survival communication skills, verbal hot buttons and cool downs
  • Learn constructive approaches conflict resolution, negotiation and consensus building
  • Recognize that you are not alone, that anger is a cultural and systemic issue and well as one of personal responsibility.
  • Learn the universal phases of system development that all relationships encounter and is the source of our anger, but also can lead to deep personal and relational development and transformation.

Men's Psychology:  I specialize in creating a unique environment for men's personal growth. Men's psychology acknowledges that men have a unique journey that benefits from a unique setting. Men often feel under-appreciated for their passion to engage the world through creativity, work and in relationships. Men long to be a part of something larger and often feel isolated and left out of community. Our current society lables men as un-engaged and un-emotional, niether of which is a reality. Men seek a form of relationship that meets them and acknowledges masculine rhythms, needs and desires. On the other hand, the way men are raised does mean that revealing emotions, developing sustained intimacy and dealing with anger are uniquely challenging.  A men's group expereince offers men the oportunity to journey together toward their deepest goals and learn from each other along the way.

Men's groups are a great way to excellerate your learning about how to manage stress, anger and conflict, increase your communication skills and emotional IQ. It is also a way to increase healthy assertiveness, positive emotions, life satisfaction and empowerment toward your deepest life goals. Open to all men who want to explore themselves, grow and change, young or old, gay or straight, and all ethnicities.


Call or email me for a free introductory consult or come to one of my free group introductions in San Francisco or Albany. 

510 684 0658 peter@peterbernhardt.com


Life presents you with critical moments of choice.
At these crucial moments, you can walk the path of doing the things you already know how to do (that often don’t work well), or you can take a step into the unknown, toward something new in yourself. You may be at such a moment in your life. Something is not working; you feel unalive, anxious or depressed; your relationships are stuck, your work is frustrating and uncreative. Or you miss a deeper connection to yourself, and sense of meaning, or a sense of community.  Perhaps you’ve found this website because your work team or organization is stuck in conflict or is stalled in it’s development.


Tools to Move Ahead in the Journey

I offer you a set of tools, a method that can help you learn a new path. Unless you get new tools, you cannot move beyond what emotional or relationship skills you already have. You can’t build a garden without a shovel and a rake and seeds, and you can’t build better relationships without a new language of attunement and connection.  You can’t connect with yourself unless you have new tools to explore yourself inside. Without these tools you will get hijacked by your thoughts, by the stories from the past or fears about the future.


A Fresh Start

The key to all change is to be in the moment. Deep change happens when something new arises in you and instead of ignoring it, you let it in and let it grow.  Being in the moment doesn’t come naturally. It’s something you have to train. You have to get into a “Here & Now Gym” to build the muscle of living in the present moment. I teach tools that through repetition help you stay connected to yourself, get you centered, and help you launch a journey of self-discovery. As blocks arise we work together to move through them.


Individual, Couples, or Group Therapy?

Individual therapy allows a person the chance to move at their own pace in an intimate setting. The individual focus from the therapist allows the client to fully explore in a trusting environment.  Couples work adds the component of being able to see live in the moment how partners impact each other. We are also able more clearly to see the system that arises from two people rather than just focus on two individuals. This is very helpful for identifying leverage points for change.  Also, seeing a couple as a system which functions autonomously from an individuals best intentions, helps partners see that the “couple system” is stronger than them until they can see it and intervene. This insight allows couples to take their system dynamics less personally.


The Power of Groups

I encourage many of my clients to consider group work, for it’s enormous potential for creating the climate in which change can happen.  Being with others learning to live in the present moment, working together on shared emotional barriers, is a unique opportunity for growth.  The groups I run are not encounter groups or support groups. They focus instead on setting core skills in motion in such a way that members build a shared space, a group intelligence that allows new aspects of each member’s self to emerge in a safe way. The emotional climate in these groups are closest to improvised music or a shared group painting. The goal is to be surprised, to discover and to transform through shared “emergent” awareness.


A Group Imperative

It’s my experience that people want more than personal change. They long for more community or course, but they also want to see more healthy communities, workplaces and societies; they want a better world. Group work provides a profound feeling of being a part of something bigger than oneself and, on a good day, provides a map for building better community and a better world.  Learning how to be a “good” member of a group gives you skills to contribute more effectively to the intimate relationships, friendship circles, neighborhoods, and the organizations you belong to.


Working With Organizations

Organizations are groups of people coming together for a common task or purpose, and are vulnerable to all the challenges of group life.  I am passionately committed to helping work groups and organizations become stronger, to be better able to reach their goals by working through and becoming aware of the phases of group development.  Work places are up against the formidable task of managing issues of authority and leadership under the pressure of deadlines, budgets and an increasingly difficult and complex social and economic environment.  The systems map and tools that work for therapy contexts are especially helpful to work groups as well.


Thanks for reading, and I hope you’ll be encouraged to look further into some of the options for growth and development that I offer.


Peter Bernhardt





Call or Text 510 684 0658


Mindfulness Psychotherapy for Relationship Issues, Anger Management, Stress, Depression, Communication & Conflict Resolution

Increase Your Aliveness Through Present Moment Awareness

Undo Your Relationship Impasses by Uncovering Hidden System Dynamics

Invite The Power of Body Awareness to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence

Welcoming to all who want to change; young & old, all ethnicities, sexual orientations & walks of life

Insurance accepted


San Francisco Men's Groups:

Monday 7:00 to 8:30 PM

Thursday 6:00 to 7:30 PM

Albany Men's Groups:

Tuesdays, 7:30-9:00 AM 

Tuesdays 7:30-9:00 PM

Wednesdays 7:15-9:00 PM


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